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Hi All! I’m going a bit deeper in this blog, this…exploration, so if you’re up for it, read on! 

 I’ve been thinking a lot lately about insecurity.  The word gets thrown around a great deal in various ways.  The insecurity that I’m referring to is the feeling of instability or unsteadiness.  It’s understandable with all that’s happening in the world right now. 

 I’ve seen my own insecurities rise up and smack me in the face recently.  Throughout my life, I’ve come up with all of these ideas and beliefs about what I need to feel secure…safe.  Things like my daughter safe and happy, close family & friends, health, how much money I have in the bank as well as a job that I enjoy, (recently) a loving relationship with a partner, and so on.  All of these make up what I thought I need to feel secure.  And these are just the beginning!  There are all of these deeper ones like being listened to and respected, seen as a good person by others, etc.  The list could go on and on.

 It’s in times like these though, that many realize that the world we built around us that’s supposed to make us feel secure is actually pretty shaky…that it’s actually more like a mirage of security, rather than the real thing. 

 Although…

 We all know what real security feels like.  We were born into that feeling…that deeper sense of being OK. (If you don’t know what I mean, watch a toddler for a bit.  They know all is well.  They know how to live full out and get up after a fall.)  At some level we all remember that profound feeling of “OKness” that required nothing. Most of us have experienced moments, where for no reason at all, we are enveloped in that feeling again, even if for just a second.  There’s a distant familiarity about it, a feeling of comfort. This glimpse of deep calm…that’s the real thing. 

The moment that we try to analyze it or hold it too tightly, it fades.  But we remember just for a second what real security feels like.  And starting early on, our minds try to replicate that feeling, which is where the mirage begins.  “Bending the light” as John Mayer called it (Clarity).  All of our mirages are unique and completely believable!  But they all have a couple of things in common:

#1: If you look too closely or for too long, you’ll start to sense that it isn’t the real thing.  (Which is probably why so many of us stay distracted or busy…uneasy that it might all crumble and we’ll have to really see it for what it is.  Most people don’t want their mirage messed with!!)

#2: It doesn’t have that same quiet feeling of being fundamentally OK…deeply secure no matter what. 

And it’s the latter that we are all really reaching for…that beautiful knowing.  In that space, we don’t have to do anything, be anything or have anything in particular to be OK.  For a moment, we already are.  It doesn’t matter what our minds have come up with…the mirage…to try and get us back to that feeling as we live life, navigating families, friends, and careers.  In those moments, we know the quiet truth of life’s perfection and the love that we are as human beings…all of us. 

 If this doesn’t sound familiar, don’t worry.  There’s nothing to do.  Just looking in this direction is enough.  It’s always being offered.  Sometimes the feeling comes to us like a whisper…a tiny moment of stillness or appreciation.  Other times, it can bring us to our knees…surprising us that we can feel this much.  And yet still, there’s nothing to do.

 The more we look in this direction, the more we see the mirage for what it is.  The more we look, doing things to secure the mirage just won’t make sense anymore.   And the more time we spend looking, the more familiar we get with that feeling…that knowing…that we had when we were young.

The feeling that all things are possible…that we are enough just as we are…and that no matter what, we are ALL ok.